Toxic Relationship

We have a lot of people around us and we live with them in society. Some people are good for us while some may affect us negatively. We have different relations with the people who are around us. Some of them can be toxic to you. You can feel the toxicity from anyone but today I’m gonna discuss the relation of a couple mostly teenager couples. Teenagers usually fall easily in love without knowing what love is. In a relationship the boy, as well as the girl, should have faith in their partner for a successful relationship but when the other person starts doubting you that’s where things start changing. You may never know when that small doubt could turn out toxic for you as you are so much into the relationship that you are ready to do whatever it takes to keep that person with you.

What is a toxic relationship?

A relationship that changes your self-esteem, the way you look around the world negatively is a toxic relationship. The relationship can start healthy but bad days, different opinions, bad history, etc contaminate the relationship, changing people in it. It can happen at any time to anyone.

Signs of a toxic relationship

“Be careful with what you tolerate, you’re teaching people how to treat you”. Look out for the signs of a toxic relationship, if you find yourself in a toxic relationship try to fix things out between you and your partner.

1. It always feels unhappy and sad

You look at other people and see the stuff they are doing and question why we aren’t doing that. You start becoming hollow and feel sad for where you are. Leaving the relationship is the toughest part but continuing it is the worst part. You will lose your strength, courage, confidence, and people if you continue being a part of a toxic relationship.

2. No privacy

Trust is the main ingredient of a healthy and long-lasting relationship. Unless you have done something to your partner that you shouldn’t be doing, he/she must have faith and trust in you. A relationship where your partner checks your messages, call logs, your bills, etc is surely a toxic relationship. The most common thing that happens with today’s generation is that they exchange their social media passwords to keep a watch on who their partner is talking with and this clearly shows a lack of trust.

3. Physical or verbal abuse

This is again the worst thing that can happen to anyone. You are supposed to be loved and feel special when in a relationship. If you are feeling any time of physical or verbal abuse you better leave that relation.

4. No effort

You can’t say you are painting just by holding a brush in your hand and doing nothing. In the same way, if you see no effort in a relationship then that relationship is pointless. Today’s generation thinks not caring is cool, talking abusively is cool but that ain’t the truth. An effort is cool, talking responsibility is cool.

5. All the love, work, compromise is one-sided

A relationship is more than just loving each other. It comes with responsibilities and both the people in the relationship should put equal efforts to make the relationship work. But if you are a constant giver in your relationship, you have to stop somewhere. We treat people accordingly the way we want them to treat us so you deserve all the love and happiness that you are giving to your partner. If you don’t receive the same thing then leave the relationship.

6. If there’s a battle you have to fight alone

A relationship is a team where you have to fight together against an odd. In a healthy relationship, when the world starts throwing stones at you, the couple sticks together and fights together. In a toxic one, when you are in trouble you have to walk your path alone. Similarly, when attempts are made to break such a couple they’ll easily separate as if they were not in a relationship.

Recently I had a call with my friend where she was telling me about her roommate who is in a toxic relationship. So that guy continuously spy’s on his girlfriend, they talk on phone calls 24*7, they always fight and that girl always cries whenever she talks with him. After listening to what my friend said I was so irritated that how can anyone tolerate such behavior. You have got one life so enjoy it to your fullest at least make good memories in your teenage rather than sticking around a person who always controls you. I am not judging that girl or her choices it’s just that if you are not happy with a person you can leave them. We should normalize leaving a person if he/she turns out to disturb your physical and mental health. An important thing which one needs to understand is that if you are in a relationship that doesn’t mean you are married. So stop acting like you are married and leave that person. I have also seen my close friend in a toxic relationship where the boy used to misbehave and used to threaten her. But there are so many beautiful souls out there with whom you can connect rather than being with the wrong person. There is a thin line difference between possessiveness and toxicity. If your partner is restricting you from doing a particular thing it may be because he is worried about you but lets you do it if you want to. What happens in a toxic relationship is you are continuously under the observation of a person. He/she controls you like what to do, what to wear but a person can never be yours if they try to control their partner. So keep in mind you can live a happy single life rather than living under someone’s pressure.

Conclusion

Making compromises is okay but if are feeling unloved or your partner doesn’t make efforts to keep you happy then talk to him/her and if that doesn’t work have the courage to leave the relationship. The main motive for choosing this topic is to make teenagers aware of what is good for them and what is bad. If someone reading this is in a toxic relationship unknowingly and understands it, takes courage to break up with that person. I write with the hope to make a positive difference in your lives and if anything good happens I’ll be more than happy for you.