Getting over a breakup

Breaking up is the worst thing as you are attached physically and mentally with a person. You become habitual with that person. Every morning start with a "Good Morning" text and "Good night" before sleeping. Due to lockdown, the percentage of break up has increased, the percentage of fights has also increased. Every single day thousands of people must be dealing with a breakup. After a breakup, you feel calling or texting that person not just because you are habitual but when you are in love your brain releases dopamine which eventually makes you feel great. After breakup, your body doesn't secrete that dopamine which will make you do crazy things to feel the same way. You start calling your ex 20 times a day or you texts them continuously to gain them back. Your brain asks for that dopamine and governs your body to get that dopamine hit back. Getting over all of these things is difficult because "Memories bring back, memories bring back you." So if you had a breakup/ you have been ghosted/ someone left you then this blog is for you. If you haven't gone through any of this you will need this for sure as someday you will get into a relationship where you will face issues and you may have a breakup or if your friend had a breakup you can advise him or her through this blog.

Accept your breakup

Whenever breakup happens you are still into that person hoping for them to come back or you try different ways to bring them back in your life. Due to your habits, you may go to that person when anything happens as you are used to it. You won't digest it easily that you had a breakup. Until you don’t accept it you won’t be able to move on. So accepting your breakup is the first step to move on. It will make you realize now that I am broken up what I have to do next. Unless you don’t acknowledge you will keep going to that person and letting him/her hurt you.

Think of the bad moments in your relationship

You try to hold on to your relationship because of the memories; the time you spent together, visited different places, had fun together. You neglect everything and focus on the good things due to which you want them back in your life. So at such times remember the things which troubled you in your relationship, maybe his/her behavior or how he/she used to take you casually and other bad incidences that happened in your relationship and write it down or keep it in your mind. So whenever you feel like texting or calling them just remember those tough times when you suffered because of him/her and how they didn't care about you. This will make you understand that you don't need a person who doesn't treat you well and you might stop going to them.

Block him/her

As you were in a relationship with that person being friends with them is so not cool. Whenever you will talk you might fall for him/her again. A breakup doesn't mean the way you used to feel for him/her has changed. Being a friend with your ex is just another way to bring them back into your life which will give rise to the same drama you had before. Blocking them is the correct option if you truly want to move on.

Solitude is important

Usually, when you have a fight with someone you don't have control over your tongue and you say anything, everyone has experienced this. But when you recall everything when you are quiet you understand that you talked rudely and your words might have hit that person hard. So when you are angry don't talk to anyone, spend your time in solitude which will make you react differently to that situation. The same applies to a relationship when your partner wants to break up with you take your time to react. If you don't know what to say just tell him/her that you want to be alone for a few time and then we will talk. Due to this, you might react differently. The same thing applies when you start missing them. Decide by yourself not to call or text them for a week which may help you to figure out things and by the end of a week, you might not call them again. If you feel like calling you can do it but don't go crazy.

Love yourself

Now that you have got so much time instead of missing him/her pamper yourself. Focus on your career, build an empire for yourself. Learn new things, stay fit. Don’t let your past hold you back, try on new things. Catch your friends, attend social gatherings, and go to parties. Keep yourself busy due to which you won’t think about him/her.

Another thing is if you are in a toxic relationship don't feel guilty to fall out of that relationship. If things are not working between you two, leave it. There is no meaning in holding a relation that will harm you. People change very fast so leaving them is okay, that doesn’t make you a bad person. If you will keep on neglecting each other the toxicity will increase and you both will end up never seeing each other face.