Attraction, Like, Love

Most of us must be confused and considering attraction, liking and loving same but there is a difference between these terms which one needs to understand .You see a person for the first time and fall for him/her calling it love at first sight. Falling for a person’s beauty, personality, talent, physique is what you call love? So let me correct you; it is attraction towards a person. There is a hair line difference between attraction and love and how we fail to understand it considering attraction as love. Although attraction is first step towards love but love and attraction are different things. Attraction causes interest where as love is beyond that. A strong feeling of affectionate, care, protective, respect is love. Everyone has a celebrity crush and some of them would be mad at them. You can’t say that love as you like their skills, it is a mere attraction and you will see it fading away with time. The next confusing things are love and like, you should understand the difference between them. Liking is the next step towards love generated through attraction. Liking happens quickly but loving evolves over time.

Temporary attraction, Permanent love

Attraction is something that lasts for a short time. You like to hangout with a person, like spending time with them but when something happens against your wish or not as you expected or tend to see their other side you lose interest in them. Love is permanent; it is about accepting a person with his/her flaws not giving upon him/her. Attraction is wanting someone for a period of time and later realizing it is not worth taking to next step.

Standing by each other

The person who loves you or whom you love never leave is crucial times. Right from our family members, close friends to our partner who love you will stand by you in tough times. The person who is attracted towards you will be there with you when you have everything to offer them. But when situation become troublesome they leave you. They are with you because of their selfishness. Loved ones stand with you when you are at peak and also at times when you are down. There is no selfish motive behind their love.

Spending time

The person who likes you or is attracted towards you wants to spend more and more time with you. They will want you to be with them and not with anyone. But love is encouraging your partner to spend time with others. Always texting a person and getting pissed off when they don’t reply happens in attraction. Chatting, talking with them for hours and hours is what you do when you like someone. Giving someone their time, space and respecting it is what you do when you love a person. There are many more important things rather than always spending time with other or chatting, talking on calls. We humans eventually develop habit of spending time with our loved ones but you should also understand that they need their own time and it’s practically not possible for anyone to spend their 24 hours with you.

Freedom

When you like someone you are possessive about that person, you get jealous when you watch your person with someone else. Little jealousy is okay but putting restrictions on a person I not what you do when you love someone. Just because you love a person doesn’t mean that they should be under your control and listen to everything that you say. Everyone has their individual lives and are free to do whatever they want knowing their limits.

Do not consider habit as love

Most of people have this misunderstanding that they consider their habits of talking daily with each other as love. When you start doing something regularly it becomes a habit for you and when you don’t do that it becomes void and you consider that void as feeling of missing someone and consider it as love. If love was as simple as talking to someone daily everyone must be in love right now. It’s just attraction and habit that is making you think you are in love.

Love is a responsibility

The generation we are living in consider everything as a medium to show off. Teenagers these don’t consider love as a responsibility- responsibility to keep each other happy, responsibility to stand with each other at good and bad times. But some people don’t understand that and they consider love as a thing to show off, they do things for fun.