Choosing priorities in life

Priority is an important thing, right? We, humans, do things which we like meaning we have decided the importance of things which we want and you probably won't do things which don't even matter to you. Everyone's priority is diverse and therefore the things they achieve are different. But priority changes with time and the things which were important for you before are not even in your priority list.

Why priority changes?

With passing time you grow older and understand the importance of things. Being a kid your priority must be playing all day but as you grow older you prioritize your career while some people still play but now it is with people’s feelings and heart. The same thing applies everywhere starting with friendships to your love life. When you are willing to cross your boundaries for someone and they aren’t ready that means you aren’t their priority. Two people who used to be madly in love with each other don't want to see each other's faces anymore this is because of the things they have experienced. People change because of the experiences they get, the things they see around them, and the knowledge they gain. These things are enough to change the mind and so responsible for priorities to change.

Learn to prioritize things

No one knows the future so be careful while prioritizing things. If you are in love with someone, don't spend the entire time with that person, know that your career, family, and friends are equally important. Just like a vehicle needs four wheels to move forward similarly your life needs everyone. If you’ll just hold on to one person you’ll start losing others. Taking people granted considering they’ll always stay with you is wrong as everyone has limits so don’t run behind one thing and forget other things.

Priority is shown by action and not by words

Everyone knows this right? However, it takes time to understand this through heartbreaks and experiences. Even though you have experienced it, you may still fall for someone’s words. You’ll meet a lot of people who will act well in front of you and bitch around your back. So you should be careful about whom you are considering your friend. Another thing is, people will say, “I love you and I can’t live without you. You are important to me.” You will hear this everywhere but wait, don’t get fooled by words. Believe people when they show it through their actions. "Action speaks louder than words", it is a saying because of a reason, the sooner you will understand better it will be for you. So be careful about what people say and what their actions prove.

Prioritize yourself

Usually, we give more priority to other people than focusing on yourself. You care about a person and you show it by prioritizing them but forget to prioritize yourself. Sometimes you run after a person who has broken you or is least interested in you but you don't give up on that person. I know it is easy for me to say that prioritize yourself, unlove that person but it won't happen in one go. Boom! The feelings are gone. No, it ain't that easy. But once you get that red flag or see that the person is taking you for granted, slowly stop doing things. I know you can't unlove a person within a day as you don't decide whom to love, you don't purposely develop feelings for a person but you certainly know when to stop. When there is no value for you, just leave. Giving a chance is okay but losing yourself is not okay.

It's all about you, no matter what efforts you put for people they'll never see it. I think rather than getting hurt it's good to put your boundaries which will not hurt you and make them feel you are still the same. You surely can’t forgive someone every time and act as if nothing happened. You keep on caring about them and they don't give a damn about you, they have more important priorities than you and it'll be good for you to accept it. Everyone doesn't see you the way you see them so behave accordingly.

Conclusion:

There is a difference between prioritizing things and running after them. Make sure not to prioritize the wrong things which will make you regret in the future. There is a difference between prioritizing and breaking the contacts so don't go for the second option. Don't prioritize the wrong person which will take you to nowhere. Focusing on your career is a great thing but give time for other things too. Never take your closed ones for granted just because they don't say anything.

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