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Imagine you like sweet food and I’ll just give you sweet things to eat a whole day would you be able to eat that? Answer is a big ‘NO’; you can’t have complete sweet food for a day. What I want to say through this is there is certain limit to everything and everything feels good till that limit, if you cross that limit things may become unbearable or may deteriorate your health. Now the same thing applies with who you allow to be in your life as people also has good and bad sides and it completely feels great when you see a person’s side which is pretty, where everything feels good but after few months you get to know that person and in the same way you know that person’s flaws which may lead to fights, arguments, difference in opinion, what hold that relation is affection, care, love. But sometimes things become unbearable, lines are crossed and you suffer, everything feels like torturing, you are mentally unstable but still you try to make it work. At this time be selfish and leave that person as you are your important asset and you will find lot of people who will treat you good, respect you. Now that doesn’t mean you will leave your friend or partner whenever a small fight or argument happens.

When you are friend with someone or in a relation if your friend or partner is dominant they will try to change you but you need to be wise enough to see whether it will help you grow or they are just trying to change you for their convenience. If they try to change your bad habits it will help you to be a better person but if it kills you from inside then don’t change. Usually people tend to change as they have the fear of losing their partner but don’t ever do that. A person should accept you all your flaws as it differs you from other person. How beautifully Selena Gomez has said in her song,” I needed to lose you to love me”. We often misunderstood things like being in love doesn’t mean only sweet things will happen; arguments and fights are a part of it but harassment and mental tortures are not a part of it and we humans need to understand it. Toxic relations are harmful, they destroy you. You start to doubt yourself, the concept of love or friendship changes in your mind. I know everyone of you must have gone through heart break which has made you wiser now that how you must be treated. But the toxicity in a relation makes you doubt on yourself. You start to think that am I that hard to love, you start losing your worth. But keep in mind you are great and not a problem to anyone, it’s the other person who has a blindfold on and is not able to see your worth.

So leave that person who constantly neglects you, doesn’t value you, takes you for granted, always doubts you. Don’t ever lose self respect in order to make a person stay because when a person wants to stay he /she will not bring such a day where you need to force him/her to stay. One important thing is that whenever you are having trouble with a person leave that person and if you are not understanding what to do share it with yours friends and not with snakes and when the situation is out of your control do tell your parents as they are the one always standing by your side. Leave that person whose presence suffocates you or keep distance with that person. Forced relation never work it’s all about vibes that you get from a person and that attracts you, give yourself a try, meet new people where things are not forced, you feel good about yourself. Self realization is must as that will made you realize that the person needs to get out of your life. Don’t be fooled by your emotions and lastly have gratitude towards the amazing people and what you have in your life.

Self Love!

Imagine, you having a heartbreak and everything just shatters down, you are unable to believe on yourself, finds acceptance from another people but at first place why am I using the word imagine because everyone of us must have gone through all this stuff. Now this gives rise to a term called “Self Love”. Self love in this generation has become necessity as you just can’t rely on another person for source of your happiness, love, worth, acceptance. When you depend on other person for all these things and incase he/she leaves you, you will again find another person who will give you happiness and you will end up getting heartbreaks all the time. So the first thing to remember is that don’t jump from one person to another person to seek happiness instead be the source of your own happiness. I know happiness comes in different forms and most of the times it’s our loved or the one close to you but no one has seen future so rather finding happiness in others, be responsible for your happiness as loving yourself, being yourself will never disappoint you rather it will help you grow.

Start focusing on yourself; get to know more about you. Stay wise enough to understand what will hurt you and stay away from it. Take care of yourselves like a baby as you are an important asset of yours. When you get to know a stranger you become friend with him/her then you share things; you become close that you know everything about that person. So in the very same way be your friend, get close to yourself and know who you really are. The relation you have with yourself is most important as it will define you and your growth. Similarly how you see yourself, treat yourself is also important. Add peace and value to your life, forget the things that don’t define you. Accept yourself the way you are rather than blaming yourself. Pamper yourself instead of being tough on yourself. When you accept yourself whole heartedly you will realize that you are beautiful, adorable the way you are and you are enough to love yourselves. You will watch yourself growing and turning into more confident person.

Happiness is something you create for yourself by yourself so do the things which you love. Spend your time on your hobbies, passion and the things which will give you happiness. Read books which will change your outlook towards life, do positive affirmations. Other people can have impact on you but you have biggest impact and influence on you. Once you are happy from inside you will spread more happiness, positivity around you. So keep smiling and love yourself!

Pain you made me believer!

The feeling “Pain” is so essential in our life. You must be thinking why I’m saying this but pain is the only feeling which teaches us everything right from which things can cause you pain to which people will try to harm you either physically or mentally. As a kid you must have fallen so many times and got injured so during that time you just understood what thing can hurt you more so you must have stayed away from it. But as you grew up the pain that you had were more intense as compared to childhood right from physical to mental pain. More often everyone focuses on the outer, physical injuries and just forget that a person also needs to be mentally stable, fit. Mental health is all about how you think, behave, feel and it is equally important for a person to be mentally fit. So today I’m gonna discuss about mental health causes, effects, importance.

Causes

You are responsible in some or other way for what you are facing. Problems, stress, failures is all part of life and it’s on you how to take it. If you keep on over thinking you will serve more problems to you and everyone of you know it very well still we humans over think on everything. People are threat to you and you must agree this. People will try to control you, continuously impose negative things and thoughts on you which truly make our lives hell. So you must know what is good for you. Some situations, phobias and other past events sometimes worsen the things and can affect you terribly.

Effects

Mental health can affect your daily life, relationships, progress and even physical health. It will make you mentally sick. You may suffer anxiety disorders, mood disorders, panic disorders and many more. You won’t feel anything worth doing, constantly low energy. Using drugs to forget everything , displaying uncharacteristic emotions. When your mental health deteriorates you may suffer depression or think of harming yourself.

Let’s get better

To overcome these things you need to remove the toxic people from your life. You need to look everything with a positive approach it will help you. Start sharing about what you feel or what is happening in your life with anyone you are comfortable with as it will make your head free and you will get some solutions to your problems. Visiting a psychologist is always a great option so if everything goes out of your control you can surely visit a psychologist. The other things you can do to overcome is meditation, listening songs or following your hobby as it makes you happy. Don’t over think instead smile more often. Here’s a tip from me that whenever you feel low just say to yourself “You are stronger than what you think. Common warrior you have to fight a lot.”

You must be facing a lot of things in your life and still burying everything with a smile. This is not just you everyone does that. We always go to doctor if anything happens so consider your mental health important and do take a proper treatment if anything happens. Mental health is as important as your physical health. If you are going through anything remember it’s just a phase and everything is going to be alright. Have faith in yourself and smile more often.