No F*cks given!

We are in such an era where we focus on strangers, people who are not close to us rather than the people who really care for you and are always there with you. When your parents, family or close friends tell you to adopt some good habits or ask you to do some things which are for your good only at that time you neglect it or don’t listen to them but when a stranger comes and tells you that you look ugly; you listen them and then over think about it. The thing is that you know you are beautiful or handsome the way you are but you give f*ck about the person who isn’t important in your life and that’s where you go wrong. You should choose whom to give f*cks and to whom you shouldn’t. Care about the people who are important to you. Be angry, get sad, say sorry to the people who matters to you, use your energy on your people as they are the one who will always think good about you and stand by you. Rather than thinking and wasting your energy on a person who doesn’t value you focus on what your closed ones say as they really care for you.

Do not waste your time and energy in giving f*cks about unknown people. Suppose you are a singer or cricketer and someone comes and tell you that you are not good at this or you should quit this and find some new hobby or passion. At that time two things can happen the first one is you will get angry at that person and fight with him/her. The second thing is you will agree what they say and then remove it from your head. If you know you are good at something prove it by giving your best and if you are lacking something agree it rather than being angry and improve yourselves. You should be able to know where to give f*cks and where you shouldn’t. I know everyone’s nature and way of reacting is different but you should be wise enough to decide what is good for you.

People are gonna judge you whether you do something good or not. People don’t know what you are going through or what you have faced so they are going to judge you no matter what you do. The thing you need to understand is there is no need of giving explanation to such people as they haven’t walked in your shoe. You’ll meet lots of people in your life where most of them are snakes, these are the people who are going to teach you things about whom you should trust; these people will teach you not to fall for their sweet words and these will be the people who will teach you the art of not giving a f*ck. So don’t get carried away by people’s opinion; you are much stronger and full of potential, if you go harder, focus more on your goals and your people you will prove everyone wrong. Let your work, success slap people’s faces.

Insecurity:Phase of a Relationship

Now a days we see most of the people in a relationship and there’s nothing bad in that. Being with a person who completely understands you, supports you and always there for you that feeling is great. But make sure you are in relationship with a person who understands you, respects you and knows that you too have your individual life. Do not be in a toxic relationship where you are always doubted rather be in one that helps you grow. When it comes about relationships the partners are concerned about themselves which is fine but sometimes that concern turns into possessiveness and that’s not good at all. There is a thin line between getting jealous and being possessive. You are in a relation that doesn’t mean you will start putting restrictions on your partner regarding with whom to talk and what to do and what not to do. Every individual have his/her life and are free to do whatever they want but if you think that person has wrong intentions about your partner at that time you tell him/her to stay away from that person but just because of your insecurity if you are telling your partner to stay away from friends that’s completely wrong.

Ever individual is different and so you are. You know how you want to be treated and you know the things you like and dislike so choose person wisely. Suppose you are introvert or a person who don’t talk much and your partner is complete opposite of you so you just can’t force your partner to stop talking with others. So now your partner is extroverted so he/she will talk with the person of opposite gender and you should be totally fine with that. You should not try to change their behavior.

These days social media has worsen the things. It is used to spy on each other; with whom your partner talks, is he/she online and if yes then why he/she is not talking to me or if your partner puts a picture with a person of opposite gender or if you are standing close to a person of opposite gender then they becomes vulnerable and that should not happen. Another thing that happens is couples share their passwords with each other due to lack of faith and trust. I know this is a generation with full of selfish people and it is hard to trust people but you are in relation with that person means you found something different in that person; trust and faith are pillars of any relationship. So if you don’t have trust on your partner the relationship will surely be unsuccessful. Now if you know that your partner likes another girl/boy and there is a chance that he might breakup with you then there is no point in holding a relation. If the person if seriously into you he/she will stay with you, no matter where they go, with whom they go if your partner is loyal he/she is going to return no matter what happens. Just be true to each other and don’t doubt.

Don’t hide things from your partner and if you do then it’s pretty obvious that your partner will doubt on you. Possessiveness is harmful mentally as well as physically so do trust your partners and don’t stick in a harmful relationship. You never know when relationship can turn into relationsh*t so love your partner but make sure it’s not blind.

Start It!

Every year we make resolutions but we hardly complete it. Not just resolutions but whenever you start with something new you do it for few days and then stop it, although you know that thing is beneficial for you. In the beginning it always seems difficult as you need more focus, energy,

but once you start with it you will understand, it was worth doing. Imagine you decide to go to gym/ going for a walk everyday; for first few days you will go with enthusiasm but then you get bored and then stop doing it or you will start making excuses. When you start with something it will be tough at initial days that don’t mean you will give up after all result matters. In order to be fit you need to take care of your health, exercise daily in the same way if you have to achieve something you need to give up on your bad habits or the things that are not beneficial for you.

Most of the times you don’t try because you feel you are not capable of doing that thing but you should remember that no one is born with talents; you need to develop them. The proverbs “No pain, No gain” and “Practice makes man perfect” completely suits in this situation. Starting something new means going out of your comfort zone, breaking those patterns which will surely open you to new opportunities as well as challenges but don’t be afraid of the challenges as they will help you grow. Sometimes it becomes hard to overcome fears as you are afraid of rejections or have a doubt in your mind ”What if I fail?” but don’t worry about rejections because you will get to know where you are lacking. We humans are not afraid of failure but we are afraid of people judging us when we face a failure. If you are lacking in something then do the things you are good at and practice the things where you lack. This will boost your confidence for sure and help you achieve things. Take an example that if you want to do friendship with someone but that person is stranger to you so by different ways you try to communicate with that person and that might feel difficult or whether it will work but when things fall in place you feel happy, blessed. In the same way you need to start new things although it might feel tough but you should try.

Now this thing also applies for your bad habits. You should try to stop them, have control over it and overcome your bad habits. At beginning it will be difficult as you are stuck with that habit from months/years but that doesn’t mean it is impossible to do so you should always try and remember not to give up so easily. At first you need to put efforts to make things happen and then you have to put efforts to make it work.