Body Shaming

BODY SHAMING- act of expressing humiliation about someone’s body. Everyone is aware of body shaming and might be targeted as well. I wanna ask you a simple question, “What is correct standard for a body?” Some might think being thin, fair looking, having proper height is the standard for a body. Now let me throw the next question towards you, “Who defined these are correct standards for a body?” Has someone written in a book that these are the correct standards for a body or God has told humans? We humans are responsible for this, someone impose their thought on you telling this is perfect and tells being overweight, skinny, dark is not acceptable. If you don’t find a girl beautiful because she don’t fit in your so called “body standards” doesn’t mean she is not beautiful. You need to change your perspective towards people and beauty.

Body shaming is all about first making you feel inferior of how you look and then make a business of that. Body shaming is done everywhere and by everyone right from your family, friends to media. Suppose you are person with dark skin tone and everyone teases you. The very next thing is you will start thinking that why am I like this? Next you will be exposed to media showing you the perfect skin color and how dark skin tone makes you ugly. You purchase the product and wait for things to happen but you forget that it is your original skin tone and it’s not going to change by using beauty products. Instead of that accept yourself for who you are, pamper yourself. You are beautiful the way you are.

The people who judge you as ugly are having dirty and ugly brains in real to think like that. Imposing tags on someone’s body is really disgusting. I know everyone of us must have judged people or imposed tags upon their body but we should stop that. Your words can affect someone badly, enough to depress that person. Everyone has different definition of beauty. Most of them think being fair, slim, good looking is beauty but a person’s inner beauty matters most and somehow we forget that. Everyone loves Black color things but when it comes to person you want a fair person, why so? People with black skin tone also have the same heart, they are not different. We humans have differentiated them and we need to stop this.There are all sorts of people around us right from skinny, overweight, short, too tall and we just crack jokes on them. Don’t judge anyone without knowing their story. Some characteristics are hereditary so they have to go through it.

I want to stop the people to judge others and start minding your own business. The people who are being body shamed just remember to love yourself first, don’t go outside for acceptance, don’t break your self esteem, have faith in yourself you are going to survive situations.

Misunderstanding sucks!

Coin has two sides likewise things has different consequences. Just like Heads and Tails, a relation also contains good and bad times and both are unavoidable. If you are grateful for the happy times, you should be thankful for bad times as they are the best teachers. Everyone among us must have been misunderstood or you might have misunderstood some. Different people, their way of thinking different, actions to take are different and when can anyone misunderstood you is also unpredictable. Now there are so many ways where misunderstanding can happen and there are so many scenarios. Misunderstanding cannot just happen between a couple it can happen between a parents and their wards, teacher and student, boss and employee, friend to friend and it is also reason for breakups, having trust issues and lot more things can happen."Communication is the key to healthy relationship”.

Root cause of misunderstanding is doubting each other. When you can’t trust each other how can you even imagine to have a healthy relationship. End the doubts by communicating with each other. Whether it be fights or doubts about each other everything can be solves when you talk with other and try to figure out things. In most cases when arguments or fights take place people stop talking with each other and stay quiet even if they are dying to talk with other. Learn to face your problems and solve them and in this situation communication is the only solution. To avoid fights and misunderstandings me and my friend has decided to speak up whatever is there in each other’s mind and I think this is a good decision. Rather than suffering alone and at times you don’t even know what other person is going through, you start making up things in your mind and you end up hurting yourself and the other person. An alternative to this situation is communication which will help you destroy your sufferings. Another thing to keep in mind is do not let the community know about your fights or arguments as it is just a topic of gossiping for them. Do not let third person come in between your fights until you are totally capable of solving your fights. Try to remember the things that cause fights and try not to repeat it again. Take accountability for your behavior and mistakes.

Do not discuss important topic over text or chat. This is another reason for misunderstanding as you try to something and the receiver takes it differently. You can speak over call or best way is communicating face to face. While texting you don’t know other person’s mood or how he/she reacts to things whereas you understand through expressions what is going in that person’s head. Another thing to keep in mind is that listen to what a person says no matter what is the medium of communication. Sometimes you worsen up the things by not listening properly, putting your own assumptions and then thinking in that way. Don’t over think and make the problem big which is small in reality. You have so many medium for communication so stop thinking and communicate.

So many times we see things and accept it as reality but you don’t know the other side. Suppose you visit a place and see your friend with a glass of drink in his/her hand and you assume that person drinks but you didn’t knew that person is holding his/her friends glass. So at such situation you should communicate with your friend and trust them. You only know story of your side and you start judging or doubting another person instead of that hear what the person wants to speak. Sometimes a friend of yours will come and tell that I saw your girl talking with other boy or vice versa so at such times instead of doubting your partner and believing that person who told you this talk with your partner. Don’t complicate things when you can live happily by communicating. Communication is the answer to all misunderstandings and problems so communicate as much as you can.

Peer Pressure

The title must have made you clear that I am going to discuss about peer pressure today. Do not neglect this topic as it is important for you to know about it. You must have done so many things directly or indirectly because of others, some things must be good and some must be bad. Peer pressure is everywhere right from watching a web series because everyone is doing it to buying something you don’t want to because of other. Peer pressure is not always bad sometimes it can help you attain good things but most of the teens are influenced towards bad things as they seems it is cool to do these stuff. Mostly teenagers get affected due to peer pressure because of lack of maturity or to fit in a group of people. When teens start forming new friendships they may start experimenting with alcohol, drugs, sexual activity because of the group he/she lives with.

Peer pressure has tremendous affect on kids. When one teenager suggests another teenager to try something it is spoken peer pressure and if the suggestion is one to one chances of influence increases. Some teens watch the action of other teens and get to choose what they want to get along with, this is unspoken peer pressure. But if you are mature enough you won’t get into these things. Once I was talking with my friend telling her how people are different from each other and some are not of my time. The reply I got from her was “You need to behave like them if you want to be with them” which is totally wrong. You need to stand for yourself. You do not need to change to fit in a group of people especially when they are doing wrong things. Never go against your ethics and morals. I have seen many people going in wrong direction like drinking, smoking as others didn’t accepted them as they were. Doing it gain acceptance from people is bullshit as you are mature enough to know your well being and you have got brains to make a decision. People who start doing a bad thing under pressure are fools. I will ask you a question, suppose you are working in a company and everyone around there drinks and smokes. You are judged and back bitched if you won’t do that, people around there make you feel lonely for not doing that. What will you do if you are not an alcoholic or smoker? Ask this question to yourself if you say yes and start doing it just to fit in with those people congratulations as you proved you don’t have brain. Congratulations for those who said no for standing against them and thinking about yourself.

Some people get into bad influence just to show others that they are cool and they will become a popular kid due to this. Peer pressure can have got good effect on you if you get under influence of people who wants to do something great in life. If a person asks you to do exercise, you agree with that person and start doing it which is beneficial to you. You have to choose your paths don’t let people misguide you. Learn to get in influence with things which will help in long term and know the difference between enjoying your youth and destroying your future.