The Subconscious mind

Okay, so let’s get into our mind today. Recently I am reading a book named “The Power of Subconscious mind” and discovered great things that as a human we should know. Everyone knows or must have heard that we have a conscious and subconscious mind; the subconscious mind makes us do things automatically whereas we give commands to our conscious mind which makes things happen. We often face many difficulties related to different things in our life. You doubt yourself, don't have faith in you, lack of confidence, low self-esteem. But from where all these things come? Does anyone teach you to doubt yourself or to have a lack of faith in you? You must have tried something and failed at it in the first go. Considering that failure you didn't try to do that same thing again. The subconscious mind is the storehouse of your beliefs, experience, memories, and skills. When you failed you remembered that experience, how it feels and then you told your subconscious mind to remember it and that’s the reason where the fear comes from.

You are a human with great potential and everything lies within you; you just need to seek inside and have faith in you. The way you treat yourself and think about yourself is all that matters. The way you talk to yourself reflects in your life. Subconscious mind listens to everything you say to yourself; it doesn't matter what you are thinking. When you want to go somewhere or there is an important meeting and you have to wake up early, that night you speak to yourself that I have to get up at 5 am. Surprisingly you get up 15 minutes before your actual time. How did this happen? A subconscious mind makes it happen. When you think of something for a longer period your subconscious mind captures it and you get the result. When you want to achieve something think about, your subconscious mind and law of attraction will make your way. This doesn’t mean you will quit working, sit at a place, and think the whole day. The subconscious mind never says no rather it doesn't make any decision, it accepts what you give it. If you think negatively it will create a negative impact and make things tough for you but when you think positively it will make your life pleasant, happier. You might be creating great opportunities as well as failures for yourself because of your thinking. But now you need to hold your negative thoughts and start thinking positively which will benefit you.

Everyone have stage fear or might get nervous before starting something new. Convert that nervousness into excitement. Say positive affirmation "You are capable of doing it, work hard and things will fall into place. I am confident about it." Say things that will boast you, your mind is always there to listen to it. Chanting positive affirmations will tell your subconscious mind that everything is alright, there is nothing to worry about and your fear will disappear. These small things will shape as well as make your life. When you go out shopping and look at things which are costly, the immediate reaction you give is, “I can’t purchase it.” Saying this you limit yourself and tells your subconscious mind that you can never get this. Instead of that say, “This thing is mine. I accept it mentally and my subconscious sees to it that I receive it. ” say this and look what life brings to you. So think positively and be grateful for everything you have in your life.

Attraction, Like, Love

Most of us must be confused and considering attraction, liking and loving same but there is a difference between these terms which one needs to understand .You see a person for the first time and fall for him/her calling it love at first sight. Falling for a person’s beauty, personality, talent, physique is what you call love? So let me correct you; it is attraction towards a person. There is a hair line difference between attraction and love and how we fail to understand it considering attraction as love. Although attraction is first step towards love but love and attraction are different things. Attraction causes interest where as love is beyond that. A strong feeling of affectionate, care, protective, respect is love. Everyone has a celebrity crush and some of them would be mad at them. You can’t say that love as you like their skills, it is a mere attraction and you will see it fading away with time. The next confusing things are love and like, you should understand the difference between them. Liking is the next step towards love generated through attraction. Liking happens quickly but loving evolves over time.

Temporary attraction, Permanent love

Attraction is something that lasts for a short time. You like to hangout with a person, like spending time with them but when something happens against your wish or not as you expected or tend to see their other side you lose interest in them. Love is permanent; it is about accepting a person with his/her flaws not giving upon him/her. Attraction is wanting someone for a period of time and later realizing it is not worth taking to next step.

Standing by each other

The person who loves you or whom you love never leave is crucial times. Right from our family members, close friends to our partner who love you will stand by you in tough times. The person who is attracted towards you will be there with you when you have everything to offer them. But when situation become troublesome they leave you. They are with you because of their selfishness. Loved ones stand with you when you are at peak and also at times when you are down. There is no selfish motive behind their love.

Spending time

The person who likes you or is attracted towards you wants to spend more and more time with you. They will want you to be with them and not with anyone. But love is encouraging your partner to spend time with others. Always texting a person and getting pissed off when they don’t reply happens in attraction. Chatting, talking with them for hours and hours is what you do when you like someone. Giving someone their time, space and respecting it is what you do when you love a person. There are many more important things rather than always spending time with other or chatting, talking on calls. We humans eventually develop habit of spending time with our loved ones but you should also understand that they need their own time and it’s practically not possible for anyone to spend their 24 hours with you.

Freedom

When you like someone you are possessive about that person, you get jealous when you watch your person with someone else. Little jealousy is okay but putting restrictions on a person I not what you do when you love someone. Just because you love a person doesn’t mean that they should be under your control and listen to everything that you say. Everyone has their individual lives and are free to do whatever they want knowing their limits.

Do not consider habit as love

Most of people have this misunderstanding that they consider their habits of talking daily with each other as love. When you start doing something regularly it becomes a habit for you and when you don’t do that it becomes void and you consider that void as feeling of missing someone and consider it as love. If love was as simple as talking to someone daily everyone must be in love right now. It’s just attraction and habit that is making you think you are in love.

Love is a responsibility

The generation we are living in consider everything as a medium to show off. Teenagers these don’t consider love as a responsibility- responsibility to keep each other happy, responsibility to stand with each other at good and bad times. But some people don’t understand that and they consider love as a thing to show off, they do things for fun.

Four legged love- Dog

Love is not a thing or emotion but it is a feeling that everyone craves for. Love has different forms and everyone have different ways to show their love. Apart from our parents the other purest form of love we get is from our pets. The title must have made clear that today I am talking about canine and most of you must have experienced Dog’s love. There might be some people who don’t like Dogs and might be reading this so I would suggest them to read it as it might change your view towards them.

Every one of us must have heard that it is great to have pets specially a Dog. A Dog is not just kept in a house to avoid theft but Dogs are great companions to the people who are lonely, don’t socialize much, empty nesters, lost human companion. They comfort us and improve our mood. Spending time with them dramatically changes our mood and helps you release stress. You feel happy being around them. It takes no time to get attached to them and then your life will start revolving around them and you will start spending more time with your dog than any human. Spending time with them makes you as well as the dog happy. There is a joy to play with them, running after them which eventually keep you healthy. Things change once you get attached to them; seeing them cry or hurt brings tears in your eyes too.

I was a person who didn’t like animals, it’s not that I hate them but I don’t like when they came close to me. Most of the time I used to get scared when they used to came close to smell. I used to feed the street dogs around my house but I didn’t like when they came close. Opposite to me were my friends and my sister who used to love Dogs. They always used to talk about different incidents and how they used to get excited when they saw Dogs. But you know what situation change, people change and I am here writing about dogs. Many people have asked me to write about dogs or pets but I never thought that it would be this soon. Everyone has fear in mind that dogs always seem dangerous as they might bite us but the truth is they don’t hurt us unless we trouble them. They express love in different ways- they get excited when they see their favorite human and run towards them; much similar like human beings. A few months back we got a pet as my sister insisted too much to get her a dog. Initially I was scared him as I used to fear dogs but as time passed the fear got out of my mind. Then I started to play with him, let him jump on me and then that fear for him turned into love.

The world would be a nicer place if everyone had the ability to love as unconditionally as a dog.