She Friend-Zoned My Love- Book Review

She Friend-Zoned My Love is a book written by Sudeep Nagarkar. Sudeep is one of the finest writers and I enjoy reading his books because of the way he describes the story and the storyline is not foreseen at all which makes you stick to the book. The story is about an accidental trio- Sia, Apurv, and Ritwik who ends up being best friends. Sia is a chubby girl who suffers from an inferiority complex. She is body-shamed by her classmates and her parents constantly bicker about her weight and career choice. While trying to commit suicide, Apurv and Ritwik stop Sia and they end up being best friends. Apurv and Ritwik never judged her for being fat and both acquired her the way she is and that's why Sia loved their company. Apurv is a youngster who is charming and likable but fails miserably when it comes to girlfriend.

The book gives us friendship goals until the entry of Amyra- a girl everyone wants. Boys want to be her boyfriend and girls want to be her best friend. Amyra holds lots of mysteries and no one knows what’s going inside her head. Sia and Amyra were from the same school and Sia doesn't like her. Apurv falls for her and tries every possible way to strike a conversation with her. He tries everything to make Amyra fall in love with him. Due to Amyra, disagreements occurred between the trio. Sia doesn’t like Apurv giving love and affectionate to Amyra and she thinks Amyra is not the perfect girl for Apurv. Ritwik is the most dependent guy in the group. You can see the changing scenarios between these four people. Between all these clashes Ritwik confesses his love for Sia and become each other’s support system. The story comes with a twist that will shock you and resolve all the mysteries of Amyra.

Every teenager can relate to the story as it contains friendship, love, betrayal, heartbreaks, career. Sia gets an important role in the book along with her boyfriend who values her more than her body. The book becomes interesting due to Amyra’s presence as there are lots of unanswered things and this keeps you read the book. Sudeep had made use of simple language and had use semi-formal, partly-slang language to maintain the connection with the readers. I have read previous books of Sudeep Nagarkar so this book didn’t please me more as other books are more engaging and have a beautiful storyline. You will enjoy the book if you like love and friendship stories.

Getting over a breakup

Breaking up is the worst thing as you are attached physically and mentally with a person. You become habitual with that person. Every morning start with a "Good Morning" text and "Good night" before sleeping. Due to lockdown, the percentage of break up has increased, the percentage of fights has also increased. Every single day thousands of people must be dealing with a breakup. After a breakup, you feel calling or texting that person not just because you are habitual but when you are in love your brain releases dopamine which eventually makes you feel great. After breakup, your body doesn't secrete that dopamine which will make you do crazy things to feel the same way. You start calling your ex 20 times a day or you texts them continuously to gain them back. Your brain asks for that dopamine and governs your body to get that dopamine hit back. Getting over all of these things is difficult because "Memories bring back, memories bring back you." So if you had a breakup/ you have been ghosted/ someone left you then this blog is for you. If you haven't gone through any of this you will need this for sure as someday you will get into a relationship where you will face issues and you may have a breakup or if your friend had a breakup you can advise him or her through this blog.

Accept your breakup

Whenever breakup happens you are still into that person hoping for them to come back or you try different ways to bring them back in your life. Due to your habits, you may go to that person when anything happens as you are used to it. You won't digest it easily that you had a breakup. Until you don’t accept it you won’t be able to move on. So accepting your breakup is the first step to move on. It will make you realize now that I am broken up what I have to do next. Unless you don’t acknowledge you will keep going to that person and letting him/her hurt you.

Think of the bad moments in your relationship

You try to hold on to your relationship because of the memories; the time you spent together, visited different places, had fun together. You neglect everything and focus on the good things due to which you want them back in your life. So at such times remember the things which troubled you in your relationship, maybe his/her behavior or how he/she used to take you casually and other bad incidences that happened in your relationship and write it down or keep it in your mind. So whenever you feel like texting or calling them just remember those tough times when you suffered because of him/her and how they didn't care about you. This will make you understand that you don't need a person who doesn't treat you well and you might stop going to them.

Block him/her

As you were in a relationship with that person being friends with them is so not cool. Whenever you will talk you might fall for him/her again. A breakup doesn't mean the way you used to feel for him/her has changed. Being a friend with your ex is just another way to bring them back into your life which will give rise to the same drama you had before. Blocking them is the correct option if you truly want to move on.

Solitude is important

Usually, when you have a fight with someone you don't have control over your tongue and you say anything, everyone has experienced this. But when you recall everything when you are quiet you understand that you talked rudely and your words might have hit that person hard. So when you are angry don't talk to anyone, spend your time in solitude which will make you react differently to that situation. The same applies to a relationship when your partner wants to break up with you take your time to react. If you don't know what to say just tell him/her that you want to be alone for a few time and then we will talk. Due to this, you might react differently. The same thing applies when you start missing them. Decide by yourself not to call or text them for a week which may help you to figure out things and by the end of a week, you might not call them again. If you feel like calling you can do it but don't go crazy.

Love yourself

Now that you have got so much time instead of missing him/her pamper yourself. Focus on your career, build an empire for yourself. Learn new things, stay fit. Don’t let your past hold you back, try on new things. Catch your friends, attend social gatherings, and go to parties. Keep yourself busy due to which you won’t think about him/her.

Another thing is if you are in a toxic relationship don't feel guilty to fall out of that relationship. If things are not working between you two, leave it. There is no meaning in holding a relation that will harm you. People change very fast so leaving them is okay, that doesn’t make you a bad person. If you will keep on neglecting each other the toxicity will increase and you both will end up never seeing each other face.

I am always here with you- Book Review

“I am always here with you” a book written by Himanshu Rai who is also an author of “My Mute Girl Friend”, “Recollecting the End: Fingers Crossed”. The book genre is Romance and Fiction. Kartik and Ashima are madly in love with each other. The book starts with the scene where Kartik gets to know that his wife Ashima is pregnant and the story starts. Kartik fell for Ashima the very first time he saw her and he knew she was the one, his dream girl. The strangers then turned to friends and gradually their friendship turned into love. After a few years, they got married to each other. Ashima- his Angel became his support while Kartik became her Teddy. Kartik’s choice of being with Ashima brought distance between Kartik and his Father. Kartik’s stubbornness to be in Ashima’s life made him do a thing which was against his dad. Although he had a perfect love life his parents were not with him.

Ashima’s pregnancy brought happiness in their lives. Kartik took every effort to keep his Angel happy. Their love story was remarkable as both used to stand by each other in every odds, Kartik did extraordinary things which have made every reader girl fall in love with him. Every time, happiness is not accepted, life is full of joys and sorrows and so does this story have. During Ashima's pregnancy, Kartik called his parents to live with them. Kartik was not able to give his full time to Ashima and therefore wanted his parents to look after her. But one night an incident takes place which shatters their life. I can't spoil the suspense but what happened that Ashima marries someone else and Kartik accepts it willingly. You must be surprised and willing to know what must have happened that night. I was willing to know when I read the synopsis.

The starting is romantic just like the romance we read in most of the books. But as the story proceeds you will read about their present and past lives. The author switches from present to past based on the incidence and the scenes you read because of this you will get to know their love right from their school, how Kartik went against his dad and all. The book will make you emotional for sure. When you will reach in the middle of the book you will get a disclaimer which says "Don't read if you are a too emotional person." So be ready to experience it all. You may think that you have guessed the plot but after reading the end you will realize that it is different. The lines are beautifully written and in easy to understand language. The words will make you cry and fall in love with the characters of the story. Every couple fights but you will see all the cute things and no arguments which had bothered me and which may bother you. The story is about the deep love that knows no bounds and a promise- I am always here with you.