Can I trust you?

Earlier when we were in school and when our globe was a better place to live, we used to trust people easily. Ever noticed that we had loyal friends in school than most of the people we have in our further life, I mean we get to more snakes in our further life as compared to school life. As we grow older we become selective about who you want in your life, we become wiser enough to think whom I can trust. But things don’t go always as expected, the person you think won’t break your trust is the one who breaks it easily and then you are shattered. This is the worst thing that happens and I am sure every one of you must have gone through this and this thing makes us wiser, selective and we tend to open at few people only. But I think this is equally important in life as you get to know how you are supposed to be treated, you value further relations, put efforts so that the person will stay in your life.

So while getting attached or trusting anyone keep some things in your mind to avoid heart breaks. Just check whether you seriously means something in that person’s life because if you are important to that person he/she will never disappoint you by breaking your trust. Everything should be two way like if you give importance to a person but he/she she doesn’t feel the same about you, chances are you being getting taken for granted which is eventually gonna hurt you. Another thing is if you start sharing things about you or your life make sure you go slowly with that and just check whether the other person is also sharing things with you and if that person don’t do that I suggest you to stop that because it will eventually you to the path you don’t want to be happen. The next thing to keep in mind is whenever a person talks about his/her life mostly past life they tell a lot of things which you consider not so important at that time but those are the real clues you need to know about that person for example a person don’t have good relations/ friendship with the friends they were in school, that person also doesn’t have good friendship with the people which are living around. This means there is something with that person which is not good for you too and you won’t understand this at first stage, you will understand this when it gets worst and at that time you will remember this. Another thing to remember is if something goes wrong in your friendship and you had a huge fight with that person but you again still come together because of some influences, that friendship is not gonna work and it would be better if you don’t trust that person. It is okay to be selective about people and trusting the right person.

Long Distance Friendship

We meet new people everyday, some become dear to us, we get attached to them, we share a different bond with that person, everything happens good but life tests our bond by distancing each other and most of them fails at this. Actually it is a matter of priority, trust like no matter what happen even if we don’t talk for days nothing will happen to our bond, it will remain untouched. Distance separates everyone right from your best friend, partner, friend, family members but everyone always talks about long distance relationships, why always relationship? You guys have read or heard a lot about long distance relationship but what about long distance friendship.

When you be in a long distance friendship things change, although technology had made things easier these days but still you just can’t go and meet your friend when you want and this really sucks because the person you need the most at your peak time is not there. Another thing that happens in long distance friendship is jealousy like I always get jealous when my best friend hangs out with her buddies. Just like any other friendship long distance friendships are so special those surprise meets, talking for hours, being away still always in each other’s heart, being away still always having their back and this makes your bond more stronger like no distance, no situation can separate us.

Few years back my best friend moved to another city but I don’t think so anything has changed between us. Earlier we all used to meet and share happiness, sadness but now conference calls, video calls have made us stick together. Whenever anything happens she is the one who still strikes my mind and I also can’t stop sharing what I am going through. The people living around me don’t know what I am going through but that idiot being away from me knows every damn thing that is happening in my life right now and she never fails to surprise us by coming back and after meeting those hugs are so comforting, it feels like home. Even there are such days when we are busy in our schedules and we are unable to talk but still nothing has changed, I have lots of friends but my best friend always resides in my heart any literally no one can never ever replace her.

Accept things

Every one of us have problems but some of us make it as a part of ourselves and carry it. If we look clearly most of them are temporary in nature. We just need to start accepting the things that are happening with us or around us. You would always be disturbed or you won’t be able to focus if you start living with your problems. So the best way is to accept it and then find solutions to overcome it. There are some problems which we cannot change or which are not under our control like any disability. You just can’t move forward if you keep on crying and criticizing ourselves for who we are. So just start accepting the way you are and embrace yourself. Accept the people around yourself as they are, if you are not able to cope up with someone or you later understand the true nature of a person which is not good for you just accept it and ignore the behavior probably you won’t get hurt or feel any heartbreak.

When I was a child the things that I always used to hear were "Why are you so quiet?" & "Don't u talk". Actually I get to hear these things now also, when someone comes home they say "Does she speaks only few words a day? "Actually it's not the thing that I don't speak, I do talk but with only the people I am comfortable with. Hearing these questions first I used to think that why am I like this? But then I googled, took various personality test and this made me curious to know more about myself and now I say that I am an introvert I have accepted the real me and so now I don’t get disturbed when such things happen.

Accepting who you are or your problems will not make them disappear but it will make you aware of who you are and your potentials. You will grow differently, make efforts to turn yourself to grow out of your comfort zone and others comments won’t bother you.