Don't stay in past

You are living your life, everything is going great and then suddenly something happens which disturbs you as well as change you. Now the change can be good for you or bad it is basically on how you digest it. But when something happens mostly with our closed ones mostly friends, lovers then you tend to change and that change is nothing but you stop trusting others, you don’t get attached to them as you have the fear of someone breaking you it’s not just fear but you are afraid of the consequences, the sufferings and it doesn’t happen only with you everyone is afraid of these things. But the truth is these things are a part of life and if you keep holding it you will remain alone.

I know it is harder to trust people but you have to trust them as you can only see people all around you, wherever you go you will find people around you and these days people are even going on Moon so even if you try to go there you will meet one or other person. Okay so the thing I am trying to tell you is you have to deal with humans either way. So based on one bad experience don’t think that everyone is same, I know believing someone after such experience is difficult but you just can’t start running away from people. Take time, don’t open up to anyone until you are not sure about a person but that doesn’t mean you will take life long period. When you start judging people based on your past experience you are still living in your past. Doing this thing is just like I won’t take admission in college as I have fear that I might fail. Giving second chance to people is not bad, if a person understands his/her mistake and is willing to change it is a good thing. Don’t just give second chances to others, give second chances to yourself also as at the end it’s you that is going to matter.

Now the same thing applies for situations or events that took place in the past. Now take an example of a singer who achieved tons of awards in his/her career and now he/she thinks that he/she is the only one and so he/she puts less efforts in work based on the awards that he/she has received in the past. Due to this his/her work becomes less favorable to the fans/audience out there. Now the consequence of this is he/she can get into depression or may stop doing their work. It is just matter of efforts and each of us should always give our 100%. You should never be in past as you have present to create your future and that’s all matters. Today you are topper of your class/ employee of the year in your office/ the person to win the best award but based on the past you just can’t say that I won’t work/ I won’t study if some other person puts more efforts he/she is likely to get success.

It ain't cool

The definition of cool has changed these days like some people think doing wrong things is cool. Peer pressure has already forced students to do wrong things and everyone has labeled it as-COOL. Thinking of our generation has changed drinking, bunking lectures, playing games in lectures, outing, chilling, hookah, etc has become the new cool. Most of us dream bigger but when it comes to actually doing the things most of us give up. Look, it takes nothing to do bad things, no efforts are needed. It will bring you happiness in short term but in long term you will regret the decisions you have taken. Doing these things once in a blue moon is okay but when you start doing it often it’s gonna damage you and your future. Most of us think these people enjoy their life and they don’t have to work or study but everyone has got some responsibilities and you can’t run away from them. You have got such beautiful life so just make everyday worth. These days using bad words, language has become so used to that you can literally see everyone using such words but you need to understand that doing this will change your language, it is gonna affect you. The person whom you are giving these bad words is not affected, nothing is going to happen him/her. Getting used to such things is self-destruction.

Instead of this just try doing something good like helping someone, disrespecting someone is easy but try doing good to someone it will make you as well as the other person happy and you know karma returns favor so I don’t think it necessary to speak about it. In the same way regularly doing your work, waking up early, exercising, eating healthy food, etc will lead you to long term happiness. All things going great and you are happy is fine but when you struggle to achieve something and when you finally get it that happiness is at different level. Apart from this you will start valuing the things as only you know the struggles you have made to achieve something or reaching a certain point. We all are used to get things easily so we don’t value it. Similarly don’t listen to the people who force you to do bad things, they are making their life hell as well as yours. You have brains and knowledge to differentiate what is right and wrong. We are humans and for sure we need break from our routines so doing something different for change is absolutely okay but make sure you don’t hurt anyone while having fun.

Social media rat race

Ever felt that my life is boring, complicated, tough, too many problems when you see others life and that to on social media. On social media we all post different things but we just show that part of our life that contains happiness it is like “Hey look my life is cooler that yours social media” due to this people believe that having negative experiences-anxiety, fear, guilt, etc.- is totally not okay. I mean if you look at your Facebook or Instagram feed, you will see some people bought a new car, some made millions of dollars, some are on a vacation.

In older days if something wrong happens you would have surely felt bad but guess what this is life and it’s gonna change. But now if you feel like shit, you’re bombarded with images of people having a happy life and then you start feeling like something is wrong with you. But the truth is everyone has to pass through bad phase so that you will appreciate the good things. Use social media wisely as a means of entertainment or to learn something rather than comparing each others life.

These days we people visit places not to enjoy and explore different things but we go to click pictures. Stay low key, you don’t need to put anything and everything on social media. We don’t share our contact numbers, photos to unknowns as we are concerned about our privacy and at the same time we share our photos on social media where you don’t know half of your followers. I know we came out of topic but privacy is also a main concern. So just be focused on what you want to do, hurdles will come along your way but you are much more than what you think. Everyone goes through this phase so no need to worry, just smile and give your 100%.