Friendship Vs Relationship

Before starting I wanna ask a question, whom would you choose if you have to choice between your friends or your girlfriend or boyfriend, whom would you choose? I was asked the same question when I was playing truth & dare online with my friend and at that time he asked me a question “If you have to make a choice between your best friend or bf whom would you choose?” Without giving a second thought I immediately replayed best friend as I have never experienced being in a relationship. Then it was my turn to ask him a question so to know his opinion I asked him the same question but the way he replied was totally different. So he said “It is not always that your best friend is right and your girlfriend/boyfriend is wrong. The one who is correct or a better decision giver I’ll choose that person”, what he said really made sense & I totally agreed his opinion. Just scroll through your social media and you will get to see atleast a post that says how boyfriend or girlfriend are always wrong and your best friend is always correct and choosing your bestfriend is always a good option. Social media glued in my head that best friend is always right and a girlfriend/boyfriend is always wrong but that day I realized it can be either way also.

The other thing that happens is priority changes, let me create a scenario that there’s a girl who is single and her friends mean everything to her but when a boy came in her life as a partner, boyfriend she gave him more priority that she forgot her friends and her world started revolving around him completely. It is good that she has found a great partner whom she trusts completely but the friends who once topped her priority list are lost somewhere. We don’t know future and so we just can’t tell that a person is going to be in your life or not how much hard you try to hold that relation.

Friends and our partner both are equally important and both play major role in our lives and so we should give equal importance to both of them. The thing is to be aware of who is good for you and who is not, maybe a person is friend/boyfriend/girlfriend with you since many years but can have jealousy towards you or may have some wrong intentions so choose wisely and if you have a friend & a partner who are helping you through your ups and downs, stopping you from doing wrong things then you are blessed to have them. Whether it is a relationship or friendship the thing that matters is personal growth and you can really sense that when you are around certain people you are learning something new it may be getting knowledge, seeing things through different perspective, learning from the experiences that they have gained. You learn from the things that you go through life so make every memory count and show gratitude towards what you have in life.

It feels good in the beginning!

Beginnings are amazing, new things are amazing. You just feel that everything is meant for you and so that new job, friendship, relationship, etc seems so good to you. You are cheerful, excited, have lots of expectations/dreams, ready to do everything as it is the initial stage but what happens after that is what I am going to discuss today. Let me explain this by an example, two people meet and they become friends in the beginning they hangout, know each other, they are at their comfort zone with that person. We are humans, we have flaws. Every person has that good and bad side but it’s on us how we take it. So when you start being with a person he/she starts knowing other things besides your choices and that is your habits, your behavior with respect to situation, the good things in you, the things which irritates him/her. At the initial stage you forgive the person if he/she does something that you don’t like but maybe after few months those things will turn into arguments, fights. Then one of them gets fed up of the behavior of the other person and here comes end to their friendship.

Getting fed up of someone’s behavior and then breaking up is the easiest thing to do & everyone does that. But the thing to notice is that you both are close to each other that means the person with whom you have broken up must also facing these things but rather than breaking up he/she choose to forgive that as people are more important than these fights. As a coin has two sides similarly every relation, things have ups and downs but what matters is not giving up on each other. As success and failure is a part of life similarly happiness and fights are part of a relation. But if a relation turns out to be toxic for you, you must clear that and then leave rather than ghosting. The problem with today’s generation is that they don’t want failure, heartbreaks. They just want everything to be happy, as per their wish like a fairy tale and so they just try to meet new people as there are no expectations, no attachments and everything just goes great. Despite of knowing all the flaws of a person and sticking around to him/her is the real thing.

The same thing goes for your dreams, job, at beginning you will feel good but then you will get bored, try to give up. At such times try to remember what this means to you and back in past how badly you want that thing to happen. So be grateful for what you have in your life, value it.

That online friend!

In this digital era where world has become closer and we meet or get to know new people at times. Everyone is aware of the apps where you get to know people, meet them, etc. But knowing a person online is a completely different thing, like you are states apart or countries apart and that friendship is at a different level. Everyone of us who is reading this has that one online friend that you haven’t met or possibility is that you can never meet. Now this friendship seems great for us as no one is gonna judge you and you can and you are filter less, you can talk about anything without the feeling of getting judged. Most of the times we hesitate to share something to our closer ones because of the fear of getting judged or what he/she will think about you but here’s completely opposite thing. The one thing that you should keep in mind is that you should be sure about the person before sharing any of your personal details or danger will be standing at your door.

All these things start with a game or a random message request you get and then it starts. So when I was in 10th class I used to play Clash of Clans, I used to chat there, one of them become good friend of mine and he was a from South of India so we used to share happenings of our life. Basically it’s a friendship with zero expectations, no jealousy, no attachments, you support each other. In this generation where your own friend talks wrong thing about you at your back having someone like this feels good. So there’s a guy from my Diploma college, we had hardly talked face to face but later we have talked on chat where we have shared our problems, we had views on different topics and when he learn new programming language he used to send me for feedback and I am proud of what he is achieving, whenever I need his help I simply ping him and he’s there to help me out.

There are lot of memes on that online friend who supports you unconditionally and who doesn’t like when someone supports you, gives you correct decision without any selfish motive. Sometimes because of them you strive more, achieve great things. I know our close friends have completely different value in our life and we share every ups and downs of our life and you are always going to have each other’s back and then comes these online friends who supports you. I think everyone can relate this and if you have online friend do share this with him/her and make them happy.