Perks of Breakup

“I don’t wanna marry you. I'm done with you. Let's breakup and bring this relationship to an end." these words were echoing in my head. One day while sitting on a hill cliff I asked her about taking our relationship to the next stage and marry each other. Her reaction broke me into pieces. The smile which was the reason behind my happiness has now turned into my worst nightmare. I started feeling everything is becoming worse and I can see my health degrading because of it. Nights became insomniac due to her memories; it affected my work and behavior with my family. “Is this the way I am gonna live my life?” Forgetting her was not easy but I have to do it for myself and my family.

I don't know who needs to hear this but "Heartbreak is necessary", you must be thinking am I crazy but I am speaking the truth. As a kid, you think every person is good as you aren't aware of the world's harsh reality. As you grow up you are exposed to thousands of people and their evil minds. Everyone seeks you for some benefit and throw away when their work is done. In a world full of fake people find someone who genuinely cares for you. Heartbreak isn't something just with your lover, it can be with your friend, your parents, or anyone whom you love, have trust in. Heartbreak can affect us both positively and negatively, it depends upon what and how we choose to. Below are some things that a heartbreak teaches us.

What broken heart teaches you?

1. Heartbreak will bring back to reality

Remember the first time you had a heartbreak whatsoever be the reason. Being a kid you were innocent but as you grow reality hits you hard. In the Love life, after having a heartbreak you understand there is nothing like a fairytale. We are brought up with all the good things which are shown in novels and movies which take you to fairyland and raise your expectations. People change and their priorities change. Sometimes you are important to someone and a day comes when they leave you. You get shattered and it hurts like hell but heartbreaks can only bring you back from that dreamy zone to reality.

2. Know your worth

Being in a friendship or relationship you keep your ego, self-respect, and everything aside just to be with that people and make her/him happy. People test your patience level with their behavior and then comes a point when you get tired of doing things because you are no longer valued or treated well. There’s gonna come a moment when you will realize your worth and prioritize yourself. You will do things that make you happy. Everything you do will be only for yourself and not for any other person.

3. Life still goes on

When you like a person or want a person, you start spending more time with them and slowly it will become your habit to spend time with that person and always be available for them. You become so dependent on that person that it becomes hard to imagine our life without that person. But guess what you are fully capable of doing things with or without that person. Some people are so immersed that they think of giving up on their lives just because of an asshole. You may be heartbroken and missing them but you won’t die for sure.

4. A broken heart makes for a great art

A heartbroken person truly makes great art. You can see all those memories coming out from someone's music, writing, painting, and other things too. Some of the great literature, music, and art are inspired by love turned sour. If you are a creative person or even if you aren’t, you should channelize that pain to make something beautiful.

5. Learning from a relationship

I strongly believe that whatever you are facing now is making you stronger for your future. So if you had a heartbreak, maybe someone better is gonna enter into your life. So many times people don’t value your efforts, the love you have for them. So maybe you will meet a friend or a partner who will value you and love you equally. If the person you love left you because of some habits of yours then look for them and try to improve yourself not for your ex but for you to become a better person. With this experience, you will understand what you deserve because you are special so never settle for less.

6. You’ll be free

If your partner or friend was toxic for you then you will be free for sure. No one likes toxicity in their life. It starts becoming more toxic when a person closer to you is hurting you or affecting you and your mood badly. Keeping your mental health into consideration it is good to leave that person. Just because that person is close to you or your family are connected doesn't mean you will stay with him/her.

Conclusion:

You are going to meet people who will break you down but you shouldn't lose hope in love. Everything happens for a reason and so this situation will make you stronger. At such times don’t think about “Why is this happening to me?” instead think about “What I should learn from it?” Even a tree shed all of the leaves during fall before the new leaves grow. In the same way, you need to fall to grow.

Long Distance Friendship

We meet new people everyday, some become dear to us, we get attached to them, we share a different bond with that person, everything happens good but life tests our bond by distancing each other and most of them fails at this. Actually it is a matter of priority, trust like no matter what happen even if we don’t talk for days nothing will happen to our bond, it will remain untouched. Distance separates everyone right from your best friend, partner, friend, family members but everyone always talks about long distance relationships, why always relationship? You guys have read or heard a lot about long distance relationship but what about long distance friendship.

When you be in a long distance friendship things change, although technology had made things easier these days but still you just can’t go and meet your friend when you want and this really sucks because the person you need the most at your peak time is not there. Another thing that happens in long distance friendship is jealousy like I always get jealous when my best friend hangs out with her buddies. Just like any other friendship long distance friendships are so special those surprise meets, talking for hours, being away still always in each other’s heart, being away still always having their back and this makes your bond more stronger like no distance, no situation can separate us.

Few years back my best friend moved to another city but I don’t think so anything has changed between us. Earlier we all used to meet and share happiness, sadness but now conference calls, video calls have made us stick together. Whenever anything happens she is the one who still strikes my mind and I also can’t stop sharing what I am going through. The people living around me don’t know what I am going through but that idiot being away from me knows every damn thing that is happening in my life right now and she never fails to surprise us by coming back and after meeting those hugs are so comforting, it feels like home. Even there are such days when we are busy in our schedules and we are unable to talk but still nothing has changed, I have lots of friends but my best friend always resides in my heart any literally no one can never ever replace her.

Men's don't cry

In childhood if you fall while playing or hurt yourself by some ways everyone used to say don’t cry but if you are a boy you would have got to hear “Boys don’t cry”, “Strong boys don’t cry”. Because of this it has become everyone mentality that boys are not supposed to cry. Whenever a boy cries people around him says “Don’t cry like a girl”, it is now fed in our heads that girls only cry and boys are not supposed to.

God has gifted us with these many emotions and everyone expresses their happiness, anger, sadness, grief, joy but when it comes to crying why lag behind. Many boys think that I am strong as I don’t cry. So I would like to correct such people that expressing your emotion is not what makes you weak. Many people judge boys/men weak if they start crying and it is totally wrong, you just can’t judge anyone as you don’t know what they are going through so a request to all females out there rather than judging, help your friends out if they are suffering pain maybe they just need someone to understand and support them. When we are physically injured you take medicine to heal but what about mental pain, no pills are going to cure that. Crying is a human response to pain and sorrow, it is healthy. It helps to relax us as crying activates parasympathetic nervous system (PNS), it can lift people’s spirit, make them feel relieved. As everything has certain limit crying also has, if you start crying frequently it may be a sign of depression.

As you are not ashamed of expressing other emotions, never ever get ashamed of crying. Every emotion has a purpose so does crying has a purpose too. So don’t think twice just express how you feel and never leave hopes everything will go well. But make sure everything is within limits so you don’t need to consult a doctor.